I remember back many years ago, I wanted to get into IT however I didn't have the necessary parts in place to apply. So, I ended up going to school for Microsoft specialized training. Next thing I knew, I was working in my first IT position. Fast forward a few years, I envisioned becoming an IT Director however there was an issue. I had not aligned myself for the opportunity to take this role. I didn't have things in order, at all. I had not continued my education and didn't have the right mindset to even apply. A week later, I began my college career. I was about to graduate with my under grad when the IT Director position opened up. I applied and was offered, I accepted.
Why do I mention this? All too often I see and hear people talking about what they want in a partner followed by, "why can't I get that?" First off, I commend them for focusing on what they want instead of what they don't want. We create what we focus on. We begin to find people that match what we think we want however some are not able to land a relationship out of it. Why? It's similar to getting a new position. The road is bi-directional. They have what you want but do you have what they want? Maybe you seek out a person who is genuinely loyal, kind, supportive and positive. If you display negativity, frustrations and go on social media rants.... you will not attract those you seek. Think about what actions you display. If you were the person you want to date, would your actions be desirable? Instead of asking "Why can't I find them?", ask yourself "What actions am I displaying and what am I doing to attract/repel them?" It's critical to have open and honest conversations with yourself....Birds of a feather flock together. Be what you want from your partner and you will get what you seek. This is why open and honest conversations is so important. We may believe we are doing the right things to get the ones we want however our results may be proving otherwise.
Be the person you want to date.